Individualt & Communities Ending Abuse

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It takes a community to end domestic violence.

Is someone abusing you?

If your current or former spouse, boyfriend or girlfriend hurts you in some way, you may want to take a look at the ...

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What You Can Do

Volunteer

FVP volunteersWe couldn't provide the services we do without the ongoing support of a large and active network of volunteers. There are many ways volunteers work with and support us. Here are some of them.

As a volunteer with Family Violence Project, you might...

  • Take calls on our 24-hour Helpline – from the comfort of your home and with back-up support from a staff person, whenever you feel you need it.
  • Co-facilitate, with a staff member, one of our weekly support groups.
  • Provide childcare for children whose parent(s) attend our weekly support groups.
  • Provide in-office clerical services like shredding, copying, assistance with mailings.
  • Help out at special events such as yard sales, vigils, wellness events.
  • Sponsor families for the holidays.
  • Donate goods or services.

We give you the support and training you need!

If you volunteer to work directly with clients, we require successful completion of our 40-hour volunteer training, which we offer two times each year. You must also successfully complete a background check and reference checks, and sign a confidentiality agreement.

Help us fundraise!

Please consider coordinating a special event – on your own or through your church or community group – and donating the proceeds to Family Violence Project. Fundraisers like penny drives, bottle drives, car washes, and bake sales are a great way to help. You could also collect anything on our wish list -- from cell phones to shampoo – and bring whatever  you collect to us. Having basic supplies on hand helps us help the people who come to our shelters in a very tangible way.

Interested?

We hope so! Please contact Jaime, Co-Director of Advocacy Programs, at 207 623-8637, x. 302 or This e-mail address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it

 

Help the Children

Domestic Abuse in front of ChildrenHow does domestic abuse affect children?

Millions of children experience direct physical harm by an abusive parent, and approximately 3.3 million witness abuse in their homes each year.

  • Exposure to the physical or emotional abuse of a parent has many of the same effects as being a direct target.
  • When one parent abuses the other, there's a 30-60% chance the children are also being abused.
  • The effects of being exposed to abuse can be severe and long lasting, impairing a child's ability to communicate with others and to form healthy relationships.
  • When children live with abuse, they learn that violence is an acceptable way to resolve conflict.

Is a child you know living with abuse? Red flags to watch for...

  • Wears dirty clothing
  • Often has unexplained injuries
  • Acts shy, withdrawn, or too eager to please
  • Avoids going home
  • Wears long-sleeved clothing in warm weather
  • Talks about abuse
  • Seems nervous and fearful
  • Exhibits overactive or destructive behaviors
  • Acts afraid to be touched by an adult
  • Always searching for food, favors, or services
  • Has difficulty getting along with other children
  • Shows constant anxiety
  • Seems depressed
  • Exhibits a very low sense of self-worth

How can you help? Appropriate responses...

  • Help the child think of a safe place to go when fighting or abuse begins.
  • Warn him against attempts to stop the fighting. Make it clear it's good he wants to stop it, but intervening isn't safe.
  • Make sure he has access to a phone and knows how to call 911. Ask if he/she feels safe calling 911 if needed. If not, ask who he can call or what she can do instead.
  • Make sure she knows it's not her fault.
  • Try not to pass judgment on the abuser -- kids often love the person who's doing the hurting.
  • Ask who in the family is most often abused.
  • Ask if there's someone he can talk to about the problem, like a teacher, the other parent, a caregiver, counselor, etc.
  • Tell her she's not alone.

Visit our resources page for more helpful information.

 

Help a Friend

Help a FriendIf you're concerned about someone you know, you probably have a good reason to be!

If you're not sure what's going on, ask. If you're afraid you'll be meddling, that your concerns might be unfounded, or that your friend, family member, or co-worker will be angry or offended, take the chance anyway.

He or she might deny anything is wrong at first -- abuse is a hard thing to admit and talk about.

But if you ask...

At the very least, your friend will know you care.

At most, you might save a life.

 

What You Can Do

We all want to end abuse in the lives of the people we care about, in our communities – and in the world. Domestic violence often seems like an insurmountable problem, but when we work together, there is hope. Here are some things you can do to help.

  • Adopt a family holiday and help shelter and transitional housing residents celebrate
  • Hold a yard sale to benefit FVP
  • Collect change for change
  • Donate food to our shelters
  • Donate new bedding for shelters
  • Host a home party to benefit FVP
  • Donate knitting/quilting items for victims
  • Make a tax deductible donation
  • Donate your used cell phone

If you know -- or suspect -- someone you care about or work with is being abused... Find out how to help and intervene with compassion, understanding – and good sense.

If you're a business owner/employer please consider developing a domestic violence policy and incorporating it into your workplace. Our Domestic Violence Workplace Tool Kit, along with the assistance and training we offer, can help.  For more information contact This e-mail address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it  

If you want to help where you're needed most...Become a Family Violence Project volunteer. Be the voice of hope and answer our helpline. Be a bright spot in the lives of kids affected by abuse and volunteer in the children’s program. Or help coordinate our special events and fundraisers. For more information contact Jaime, Co-Director of Advocacy Programs, at 207 623-8637, x. 302 or This e-mail address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it

If you want to help bring an end to the cycle of domestic abuse...Make a difference by scheduling our prevention and training programs for your group, organization, or company. Let’s work together to increase awareness and change attitudes. Call us at 207-623-8637

If you'd like to support our work financially...Now you can donate online. It’s so easy -- and any gift is appreciated and put to good use.