A safety plan includes anything that helps increase someone's safety before, during, or after an abusive incident. We encourage anyone experiencing abuse to focus on what has worked in the past to maintain safety, and to brainstorm ideas about what to do in case it ever happens again. We have provided some ideas below, but every situation is different. Remember that no one deserves to be abused!

AT HOME...

• Stay aware of possible exits if an argument erupts
• Keep an extra set of keys, money, and a packed bag ready in case you need to leave quickly
• Identify a friend, family member, or neighbor you can contact in case something happens
• Create a code word or signal to use with your children, friends, family, or neighbors to let them know when you need the police or other help
• Plan in advance where you can go if you need to leave home

AT WORK OR IN PUBLIC...

• Decide if there is someone at work you can tell about your situation, including office or building security, and provide a photo of your abuser if possible
• Arrange to have someone screen your calls
• Create a plan for when you leave work - ask for an escort to your car, use different routes to go home, know where the closest police station is and drive to it if you are being followed

IF YOU ARE PREPARING TO LEAVE...

• Create a list of things you would need to take with you when you leave: Identification, driver's license, car registration and title, birth certificates for yourself and your children, money, bank books, keys, medications, social security cards, address book, clothes, etc.
• Begin to create your own resources by opening bank accounts in your name, renting a post office box to receive mail, or doing any other things that will increase your independence
• Leave money, keys, copies of important documents, and extra clothes with someone you trust, so you can leave quickly
• Talk with family, friends, police, or staff at community agencies who would lend their support
• Keep the Family Violence Project helpline number (see the top of this page) close at hand
• Remember that leaving is dangerous time, as many abusers will escalate their violent behaviors to keep control over you